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  • You’ll Never Be Content Until You Make Peace With Who You Are – How to Live an Authentic Life

    Living an Authentic Life

    Are you living an authentic life? Do you know what it means to live your authentic life?

    Living authentically means being at peace with who you are and living life to the fullest. An alarming number of people struggle with being who they are. They are living life on autopilot, numb to what makes them happy.

    The Struggle to be Content

    Struggle and content are two words that have no business being in the same sentence, yet most people have been experiencing that for months, years and lifetimes. You’ll never be content until you make peace with who you are. Bit of a sting to it, isn’t there?

    The good news is that you already have everything within you to create the change you’re seeking. You have the wisdom, strength and awareness of what your soul needs. You just need a little help reconnecting to those hidden gems and finding the way back home to yourself. You’ve wandered off the path but your north star never stopped shining for you.

    compass in hand

    The Longing for an Authentic Life

    You’re tired of the struggle of trying to fit in, find your place and be happy. I know the struggle because I’ve been there, in fact, I spent most of my life there. You long to be at peace with who you are and where you’re at but there’s something that’s still not right. The harder you try to make it work, the worse it gets. It feels like you’ve been fighting a never ending battle and you’re waving the white flag of surrender.

    Take comfort in the knowing that it really is going to be ok. It’s darkest before the dawn and your sun is starting to rise.

    Being content by making peace with who you are and living an authentic life is closer than you think.

    Making Peace and Finding Your Authentic Self

    How do you make peace with who you are? Afterall, isn’t that what you’ve been trying to do all along?

    No one sets out to ruin their own day, or to make their lives more difficult with the choices they make. No one likes to be in a crappy mood.

    The problem is that we’re making choices based on old programming. Programming so ingrained that its become habit and we don’t realize we’re our own worst enemy. Peace comes when you begin questioning this default thinking one negative thought at a time.

    Erin Hanson quote authentic living

    Denying the Dream Inside

    We all have a deeply personal dream inside of us that we’re longing for. The conflict arises when we deny ourselves that dream and live according to the expectations of others.

    We stop listening to the guiding voice within that directs us forward along our own path and default to the opinions of others, whether it’s spouses, parents, siblings, friends, society. In many cases it’s our own internal dialogue based on those limiting beliefs (which were actually the voices of others that we internalized at a young age and mistook for our own).

    Living An Authentic Life

    If you’ve had enough of the struggle and are ready for change, you are in the absolute best time and place in your life right now to make it happen.

    I’ve morphed from an anxiety-ridden, overly-reactive person who was rarely ever comfortable in my own skin and had self doubt so pervasive that I second guessed everything, to a woman who knows her worth and loves herself so deeply that I don’t second guess ANYTHING.

    I don’t know everything or have all the answers, but I do know myself well enough that I have absolute faith in all that I do and every decision I make and that is some POWERFUL shit.

    It’s a total game changer when you connect to that level of trust in yourself.

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    It’s the soul’s duty to be loyal to its own desires. It must abandon itself to its master passion.

    – Rebecca West

    Authentic Jennifer Grigg

    My # 1 Tip for Reconnecting to My Authentic Self

    One of my best secrets (it’s not really a secret, but that sounded super savvy when I first wrote it lol) for reconnecting with my authentic self is through a favourite book. I get all tingly excited when I buy a book I’ve been dying to read, and all warm and fuzzy when I re-read an old fav.

    Here’s some recommendations. I have a ton of books and these are among the best when you’re taking your first steps at trying to figure out who you are and what you’ve forgotten.

    Simple Abundance is a cherished one I first read 20 years ago and I am loving the gifts it’s bringing forth in me again. If you’re a woman my age…ahem….47…this book will resonate with you.

    Sarah Ban Breathnach speaks to the very soul of frazzled modern women who suffer from a lethal surge of impossible expectations USA TODAY

    Sarah Ban Breathnach

    For the younger members of this tribe, I suggest anything by Rachel Hollis if you’re looking for a kick-in-the-ass, light-your-soul-on-fire kinda read. I literally got up and washed my face AND stopped apologizing after reading her work.

    Rachel Hollis

    And for the fellas out there, this one’s for you.

    Unfu*k Yourself Gary John Bishop

    And if you’re yet to pick yourself up off the floor because you’re going through some heavy shit, I recommend anything by this woman…

    Brene Brown

    I’ve got your back when it comes to living an authentic life.

    Jen xo

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  • The Hard Part of Follow Your Bliss

    Cup of coffee to start the day
    Morning coffee

    It’s Wednesday and I woke up feeling tired. It’s not exactly in line with my living mantra of Follow Your Bliss, but it’s real life.

    I’m often awake around 3-4am, but I think it was closer to 4:30 this morning because the birds were chirping. I managed to fall back asleep around 5:30 and slept til 8, which felt really late to me. Maybe that’s where my day went a little sideways. I wasn’t even out of bed and I was already feeling behind in my day. In hindsight, I should’ve just stayed put and let myself enjoy the space of nothingness. Or at least grabbed my journal and dumped the negative thoughts that were starting to pile up in my brain on paper so as not to completely derail my day.

    I jumped out of bed, made my coffee, and headed for the couch and my laptop. Big Mistake. Scratch that, not a mistake – because I don’t believe in mistakes or in doing things wrong – I believe everything happens for a reason and it all teaches us something if we’re willing to see the lesson. In it’s simplest form, it teaches us to not do that again, whatever that happened to be. We make a choice or a decision and there’s a result that comes from that decision, which we either like or we don’t. In my case, my choice to go right into work mode caused a ripple effect of….ERG! UGH! and F*#K! for lack of a better description.

    Today I’m yet again reminded of the life lesson (life lessons keep repeating themselves until we actually learn them and change the behaviour that causes them to appear in the first place) that it’s impossible to do it all and incredibly stressful to even entertain the idea.

    I’m a firm believer in the Follow Your Bliss mantra, so much so that it’s tattooed on my left arm in memory of my brother Steven. I know without a doubt that we are all here to bring our natural gifts forward to share with the world and light it up in a way that it’s never seen before. Each and every one of us has unique talents that the world will never see if we don’t believe in ourselves and share them – which means that the very people that need to hear your voice/see your creativity/resonate with your words – will miss out. YOU may be just what someone else needs in order to heal. That’s what Follow Your Bliss means to me.

    Follow Your Bliss tattoo on Jen's arm
    The tattoo

    The hard part of Following Your Bliss is the behind the scenes part that no one sees. Trying to learn a bunch of new things simultaneously, for example. In my case: web design, business card design, accounting software, marketing, branding, becoming savvier with your social media, email marketing, SEO, completing the courses and training that your new business is based on – health & wellness coaching, body language training certification, human behaviour courses and essential oils, preparing for new public speaking opportunities – always fun for those with any ounce of anxiety – and of course, the fear of putting yourself out into the world in a whole new way, just to name a few.

    It’s working all hours of the day, trying to juggle a gazillion moving parts and finding your way all on your own. The benefit to working for someone else is that you show up, you’re told what to do, you put in your day and then you go home. When you’re an entrepreneur, you’re on your own. There is no one there to tell you what to do and no user manual to guide you. However, I knew I couldn’t work for someone else which, by the way, is a key indicator that you too are an entrepreneur at heart if that resonates with you.

    It’s a powerful experience in trusting and having unwavering faith in yourself and there have definitely been times when my faith wavered. You need to have a burning passion and a ton of grit to see this through. I’ve laughed, I’ve cried (today as a matter of fact), I’ve taught myself more than I ever thought I could, and had times where I’ve never felt more alone (also today).

    This journey of Following Your Bliss is not for the faint of heart.

    Having said that, I’ve been blessed with incredible mentors along the way that have helped me immensely in my journey (that is, when I allowed myself to reach out for help).

    An amazingly patient and insanely talented young website designer named Daynna Hartjes A Daynna Life  helped me create this beautiful foundation from which everything else will be built upon.

    My very good friend and motivational guru, Shelli Varela Shelli Varela, who had me on her podcast (which was totally awesome) and is always ready to offer words of wisdom or a kick in the [email protected]* whenever I need it.

    The stunningly authentic and beautiful Tara Marino and the Elegant Femme community Elegant Femme, whose courses have been the catalyst for me in reconnecting to my truth and my bliss.

    Vanessa Van Edwards and Danielle Baker at Science of People where I received my certification as a Body Language Trainer along with a ton of knowledge and experience on going down the entrepreneurial path.

    These wonderful people brought me back to shore when my little boat, the SS Jenny, was adrift.

    Jen and husband looking at each other
    My rock

    Especially, my husband Earl.

    After deciding 4 hours ago that I was NOT going to do anything work related today because I recognized that insufferable feeling of swimming upstream and the need to walk away, I’ve just written an 1000 word blog. Is it really work related though? EVERYTHING ends up being work related on some level when you’re an entrepreneur. It’s either directly related to work or becomes inspiration for your work.

    I find writing to be cathartic, therapeutic, soul nourishing and stress relieving. It’s an opportunity to express my deepest thoughts, dreams, feelings and desires and hopefully connect with others through my words and perspectives. It’s both work and play, content creation and therapy, cultivation and bliss.

    It’s also – I’ve just realized – the easiest way for me to do the thing I’m trying so hard to do – inspire others by Following My Bliss.

    There is a flip side to everything we do in life. The yin and the yang, light and dark, expansion and contraction. What makes the path of Following Your Bliss different from the usual slog through life is that you’re Following YOUR Bliss rather than someone else’s.

    Jennifer sitting in the sun, following her bliss
    In my happy place – at home in the sun
    As tough as it gets, the inner light that’s guiding me shines bright enough to light even the darkest of times.

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