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  • My Soul Reconnection and the Peace It Brought Me

    Your Soul Knows

    I believe with all my heart that our souls know why we’re here and what we’re here to do. I also know that I had to forget most of what I believed to be true about myself in order to reconnect with my soul and the guidance that’s always been there for me.

    How It Feels to Lose Touch With Your Soul

    Ugh, where do I start? Sleepless nights, irritability, feeling directionless and filled with inner angst…wait, those all could’ve been menopause symptoms…however they do relate to losing touch with your soul as well. How about feeling lost, disconnected, ungrounded, and an alarming lack of love in my heart? Perhaps this quote by Katharine Butler Hathaway best explains my malaise.

    “If you let your fear of consequence prevent you from following your deepest instinct, your life will be safeexpedient and thin.”

    Not only could I not feel my deepest instincts or hear the voice of my soul, my life had indeed become safe, expedient and thin. And yes, fear played a big role in that because I’d lost my connection to source and to the larger part of me that knew all was well.

    Three Steps I Took

    The first step in finding my way back home and reconnecting with my soul was to learning to be gentle with myself. One of the reasons I’d lost touch with my soul was because I’d forgotten the power of grace. Allowing myself the kindness and compassion that I so willingly give others was a necessity in my journey back to myself.

    Being gentle with yourself means softening when you notice the tendency to be critical. It means giving yourself time and space for that which touches your heart. For me, it meant revisiting the things that had proven to nourish my soul in the past – meditation, reading and journalling – each morning before I got out of bed.

    Secondly, I made sure to get outdoors for a walk everyday. Movement isn’t purely a physical thing. It’s an emotional, spiritual and physiological experience that benefits you on so many levels. Being outdoors in nature is tending to your soul. It’s about giving yourself a precious, delicate sliver of time just for you in which you foster serene presence and gratitude for your mind, body, soul and nature itself.

    (And if there were days that I didn’t walk, I didn’t beat myself up for it. Ever.)

    Thirdly, I practice loving myself – fully, completely and unapologetically – on a daily basis. Yesterday while watching an old episode of Oprah, a young Deepak Chopra said, “your cells hear every thought you think” and I knew this to be true in a way that required no thought on my part.

    a soak in the tub soothes the soul
    Image credit: @callyjanestudio on instagram


    Who We Really Are

    We are all undeniably loveable no matter what we think about ourselves. Those negative thoughts you have about yourself are not the truth of who you are. You are an infinite being of love and light and if you think I’m blowing stardust up your arse then that’s your prerogative to think that way.

    I have just one question, is what you believe to be true about yourself at your core lifting you up or dragging you down?

    I used to have a litany of negative thoughts about myself that played on repeat like a record that skipped nonstop. It’s taken a considerable amount of work to reprogram that shit (and it may very likely be an ongoing process) but from the vantage point I have right now, it’s a very positive place up in that head space of mine.

    I’m closer to my truth than I’ve ever been, and that truth is that I am here to love – to give love, to feel love, to see love and to be love. As esoteric or woo woo as that may sound, I unfailingly believe that is what is at the heart of this life journey for all of us, and that’s the wisdom that’s come from reconnecting with my soul.

    Life Journey and Soul Journey Is Not the Same

    Our life journey’s purpose may be to give love, to feel love, to see love and to be love, which reconnects us to our soul, but our soul journey is much larger than that.

    Whether you believe in past lives, or parallel lives (as explained by Anita Moorjani in her book, Dying To Be Me in which she experienced a near death experience while in a coma and recovered from a 4 year cancer battle that ravaged her body upon her awakening), or you believe that this is your only life, I believe that our souls are capable of journeying far beyond what we can ever know with our physical senses.

    If you’ve read any of Wayne Dyer’s books, or Deepak Chopra’s books, you’ve come across this concept before too.

    I believe this soul of mine is what I am. My soul is who I am. My body isn’t. Look at it this way, you are not in the same body you were when you were 5 or 15 or 35, but the you that is inside is still there.

    That, my friends, is your soul and the true essence of who you are.

    My soul journey this time around has been to experience certain things that I once looked at as trauma, but that I now look at as simply the experiences through which I learned to love myself unconditionally and support others with love, compassion and understanding.

    A previous soul journey had me die in one of the world wars, (according to a palm reader), and which made perfect sense to me because I had such an ingrained and unexplainable resistance and/or avoidance of all things military. I suspect I may have also froze to death because I hate being cold…lol.

    Soul Guidance

    So what has reconnecting with my soul actually done for me? I’m glad you asked.

    While meditating yesterday morning, I received the message of “no more voids to fill”, followed by a warm wave of peacefulness within. I could try to explain how powerful message that was for me to receive but I don’t think words would actually do it justice. I also think that if you’ve been trying to fill your own internal voids, then you understand.

    The next thing I received was “magnet for good” and the image of a magnet came to mind.

    And I believe it.

    I feel it, I know it.

    And most importantly, I accept it.

    I no longer believe that I’m unworthy, or deeply flawed, or not good enough in any way.

    I’m believe I’m worthy, human and good enough in every way.

    Life will always have it’s ups and downs, laughter and tears, and difficult experiences to go through but now that I’ve reconnected with my soul, I know I’m always being guided, supported, protected and blessed.

    There is no greater gift.

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  • You’ll Never Be Content Until You Make Peace With Who You Are – How to Live an Authentic Life

    Living an Authentic Life

    Are you living an authentic life? Do you know what it means to live your authentic life?

    Living authentically means being at peace with who you are and living life to the fullest. An alarming number of people struggle with being who they are. They are living life on autopilot, numb to what makes them happy.

    The Struggle to be Content

    Struggle and content are two words that have no business being in the same sentence, yet most people have been experiencing that for months, years and lifetimes. You’ll never be content until you make peace with who you are. Bit of a sting to it, isn’t there?

    The good news is that you already have everything within you to create the change you’re seeking. You have the wisdom, strength and awareness of what your soul needs. You just need a little help reconnecting to those hidden gems and finding the way back home to yourself. You’ve wandered off the path but your north star never stopped shining for you.

    compass in hand

    The Longing for an Authentic Life

    You’re tired of the struggle of trying to fit in, find your place and be happy. I know the struggle because I’ve been there, in fact, I spent most of my life there. You long to be at peace with who you are and where you’re at but there’s something that’s still not right. The harder you try to make it work, the worse it gets. It feels like you’ve been fighting a never ending battle and you’re waving the white flag of surrender.

    Take comfort in the knowing that it really is going to be ok. It’s darkest before the dawn and your sun is starting to rise.

    Being content by making peace with who you are and living an authentic life is closer than you think.

    Making Peace and Finding Your Authentic Self

    How do you make peace with who you are? Afterall, isn’t that what you’ve been trying to do all along?

    No one sets out to ruin their own day, or to make their lives more difficult with the choices they make. No one likes to be in a crappy mood.

    The problem is that we’re making choices based on old programming. Programming so ingrained that its become habit and we don’t realize we’re our own worst enemy. Peace comes when you begin questioning this default thinking one negative thought at a time.

    Erin Hanson quote authentic living

    Denying the Dream Inside

    We all have a deeply personal dream inside of us that we’re longing for. The conflict arises when we deny ourselves that dream and live according to the expectations of others.

    We stop listening to the guiding voice within that directs us forward along our own path and default to the opinions of others, whether it’s spouses, parents, siblings, friends, society. In many cases it’s our own internal dialogue based on those limiting beliefs (which were actually the voices of others that we internalized at a young age and mistook for our own).

    Living An Authentic Life

    If you’ve had enough of the struggle and are ready for change, you are in the absolute best time and place in your life right now to make it happen.

    I’ve morphed from an anxiety-ridden, overly-reactive person who was rarely ever comfortable in my own skin and had self doubt so pervasive that I second guessed everything, to a woman who knows her worth and loves herself so deeply that I don’t second guess ANYTHING.

    I don’t know everything or have all the answers, but I do know myself well enough that I have absolute faith in all that I do and every decision I make and that is some POWERFUL shit.

    It’s a total game changer when you connect to that level of trust in yourself.

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    It’s the soul’s duty to be loyal to its own desires. It must abandon itself to its master passion.

    – Rebecca West

    Authentic Jennifer Grigg

    My # 1 Tip for Reconnecting to My Authentic Self

    One of my best secrets (it’s not really a secret, but that sounded super savvy when I first wrote it lol) for reconnecting with my authentic self is through a favourite book. I get all tingly excited when I buy a book I’ve been dying to read, and all warm and fuzzy when I re-read an old fav.

    Here’s some recommendations. I have a ton of books and these are among the best when you’re taking your first steps at trying to figure out who you are and what you’ve forgotten.

    Simple Abundance is a cherished one I first read 20 years ago and I am loving the gifts it’s bringing forth in me again. If you’re a woman my age…ahem….47…this book will resonate with you.

    Sarah Ban Breathnach speaks to the very soul of frazzled modern women who suffer from a lethal surge of impossible expectations USA TODAY

    Sarah Ban Breathnach

    For the younger members of this tribe, I suggest anything by Rachel Hollis if you’re looking for a kick-in-the-ass, light-your-soul-on-fire kinda read. I literally got up and washed my face AND stopped apologizing after reading her work.

    Rachel Hollis

    And for the fellas out there, this one’s for you.

    Unfu*k Yourself Gary John Bishop

    And if you’re yet to pick yourself up off the floor because you’re going through some heavy shit, I recommend anything by this woman…

    Brene Brown

    I’ve got your back when it comes to living an authentic life.

    Jen xo