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  • Listening to the Voice Within and the Success it Brought Me

    I can’t believe it’s been a year already since I put out a post looking for a fire department to do free training with. 😲 It’s caused me to pause and reflect on my 18-month entrepreneurial journey thus far. 🙃

    When I left my job at the fire college, I had a vague idea of what I wanted to do (coaching and speaking) and a dream in my heart, but no real game plan. Probably not the smartest way to go about something but I’ve always been a “follow your bliss” kinda girl and felt it was time for me to do just that. 🙂

    Jennifer Grigg photo

    👉🏻 I enrolled in a Holistic Wellness Coaching program through IAWP (International Association of Wellness Professionals) because I firmly believe everything in our lives is interrelated – mind, body, spirit and our internal and external lives. (I’m still working to complete that course, btw. 😂 It fell by the wayside but I’m back on track and down to my last couple modules.) 💁‍♀️ Not giving up on it because I still believe in it and it was a solid first investment in myself and in my dream ($1950 US).

    👉🏻 Then I came across a certification course for Body Language Trainers with the inspiring TedTalker and bestselling author, Vanessa Van Edwards, and amazingly managed to find a way to fund the tuition, (which was about $6000 US). As an introvert and people watcher 👀, I’ve always been fascinated by the science and psychology of human behaviour and what makes people tick. This program was a complete game-changer for this chick! 🌟

    👉🏻 While I had both of those going on, I also enrolled in a group mentoring program with a woman named Tara Marino whose company is called Elegant Femme, with several other ladies that I’d never met, which took me to a weekend retreat in Outer Banks, NC. It was an amazing experience and helped me face and overcome things that had held me back much of my life, which was necessary if I was ever going to be in a position to coach others! 😄 That was another $3400 US.

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    👉🏻 I also hired someone to design a website for me (that was easily $2500 cad by the time it was all done with website hosting platforms, website theme, registered domain names, email marketing, etc etc). I likely could’ve done this in a more cost-effective and simpler way especially since I was just starting out, but not knowing what I was really doing at the time, it seemed to make sense. 🤓

    👉🏻 I’ve given my ALL to this dream mentally, emotionally, financially and spiritually. I’ve gone through months of no income, I’ve experienced many times when I totally lost faith in my ability to create a business out of thin air (who does something like that and actually succeeds at it?? I’d ask myself). I’ve had highs of making amazing income to lows when I’m in not active in coaching and training and wonder what the hell I’m doing.

    👉🏻 HOWEVER, seeing this post today made me realize how far I’ve really come.

    🌟 I’ve met the most amazing people (mostly firefighters but also municipal staff) through delivering body language training.

    🌟 I traveled to BC (a long-standing dream of mine) to present at the BCAFC (BC Association of Fire Chiefs) conference in June. Best road trip shared with my one and only Earl Grigg and my best presentation ever because I not only overcame the worst anxiety but realized how in my zone I am with sharing body language science).

    Jennifer Grigg

    And perhaps the greatest gift of all,

    🌟 I’ve learned and grown in ways that I NEVER would’ve had I not taken this journey. I’ve learned to do things I had no idea how to do when I started out and I’ve grown into a woman who knows what she wants (most of the time 😂 ) and knows WITHOUT A DOUBT that she can achieve it. A faith in myself that I never would’ve experienced if I’d stayed on the path I was on.

    If you’ve read to the end of this post, I have a message for you…

    You absolutely can and should pursue what sets your soul on fire! 🔥Because that, my friend, is the ONLY thing that will truly fill you up and allow you to bring your best self to this world and to the people in your life.

    No more excuses.
    No more waiting.
    No more what ifs.

    If this anxiety-ridden introvert with no self-confidence can make a go of it and change her life in the process, YOU CAN TOO! 🥰

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  • Smile, it’s contagious!

    A genuine smile not only stimulates your own sense of well-being, it also tells those around you that you are approachable, cooperative, and trustworthy. A genuine smile comes on slowly, crinkles the eyes, lights up the face, and fades away slowly. Most importantly, smiling directly influences how other people respond to you. When you smile at someone, they almost always smile in return. And, because facial expressions trigger corresponding feelings, the smile you get back actually changes that person’s emotional state in a positive way. Not bad for one small nonverbal change.

    Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D., is an international keynote speaker and leadership presence coach. She’s the author of “The Silent Language of Leaders: How Body Language Can Help – or Hurt How You Lead” and creator of LinkedInLearning’s video series: “Body Language for Leaders.” For more information, visit CarolKinseyGoman.compexels-photo-208165.jpeg

     

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  • Waiting

    What are you waiting for right now? Anything?

    Are you waiting for the weekend? Waiting to take a vacation, a trip, a get away?  Waiting for the end of your work day? Waiting until the time is right to, oh I don’t know, live your life?

    I had one of Oprah’s “a-ha moments” about the whole notion of waiting while walking my dogs this morning ( I seem to do my best thinking when I’m otherwise occupied and not intentionally thinking, like when I’m dog walking, brushing my teeth, in the shower, cleaning the house…you get the idea).

    It led me to question why it is that we consider ourselves to be “waiting” for something. In an effort to narrow it down, I surmised that what we’re waiting for is often in the form of news, or information. Whether it’s good news (approved for the loan, offer was accepted on the house, got job we interviewed for) or bad news (the loss of a loved one, or a job, or something didn’t turn out the way we hoped).

    What exactly is happening when we find ourselves waiting for something? What is it about the wait that is so difficult?

    We think that our lives will be more complete in some way when we finally get the news. Yay! We got the loan, we can buy something and our lives will be complete, or yay! we got the house of our dreams, NOW our life is really complete, or maybe it’s that perfect-for-you job that you just got that will finally make you complete.

    Don’t get me wrong, I believe wholeheartedly in following your dreams and doing, being and having the wonderful things in life that make your heart smile. However, those things don’t complete you.

     

    If it’s not-so-good news we are waiting for, such as in the case of a loved one being diagnosed with an illness, or a friend that’s had an accident, or some other form of loss, our lives are essentially put on hold. We experience a heaviness as if the weight of the world is resting on our shoulders. We wonder how to even cope in the midst of not knowing, of not having the answers we feel we need. We think we need the answers in order to know what to do next, in order to continue to live our lives. But the truth is, you can only live one moment at a time anyway, and it will always and only ever be the moment that you are in right now.

    In either case, we think that a future moment is going to be better than the moment that we’re in. We’ll have something then that we don’t have now. The problem with that is, you’re missing out on the moment you have right now, and it will never come again.

    The loan either will come through or it won’t, you get the house or you don’t, the job is yours or it isn’t. It’s black and white. It is, or it isn’t. Either way, you can’t do anything about it until it gets to that point. So why worry about it? It’s in the future and you aren’t there yet. Let it go and enjoy where you’re at in this moment. Enjoy all that you already have in your life and all that you’ve been through to get to where you are.

    In the case of facing a loss, here’s my take on that. What I’ve learned is that we oscillate between the devastating thoughts of life without our loved ones, and what that will look like, and trying to come to terms with where things are at right now in the grand scheme of things. Again, we’re devastating ourselves by looking to the future, which hasn’t come yet, and we’re missing out on what could potentially be the last weeks or months with our loved ones.

    The wait does us in.

    So how about this for a change…let’s use the wait to be a catalyst for change. Whenever we find ourselves waiting for something; good news, bad news, the bus, dinner or our kids to clean their rooms (big hahahaha on that one!), let us use that realization to our benefit. When you become aware that you are in fact waiting on something, anything, take note of the beauty that surrounds you. Be thankful for what is already in your life, even if it’s the kids messy rooms (you can be thankful in that moment that you have kids and all of the love that they bring into your life).

    Here’s a suggestion; the next time you find yourself in the “wait” zone, use that time to do something that you’ve been telling yourself you never have time to do. 😉

    The life you have is 100% yours. It can be as beautiful or as difficult as you decide it will be.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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  • I think I missed Christmas…

    How does one do that, exactly? Miss Christmas? Even Ebenezer Scrooge had his epiphany in time to celebrate Christmas. I, however, seem to have missed it almost entirely. I didn’t have the pre-Christmas warm and fuzzies in the days leading up to Christmas, I found myself unable to get into the spirit of buying gifts, never mind the gift wrapping, and Christmas day itself went by almost without a hint of feeling. It was more of a numb kind of feeling, if you can call it that. Aside from being flooded with emotions while watching the video that my two daughters made for me,  it just seemed like any other day. Except it wasn’t. It was Christmas and I was unsure why I was feeling so blah when I should have been feeling the “beauty of the season”. Maybe it had something to do with the fact that my second oldest brother passed away in June of this year, which is the third member of my family that we’ve lost. Although he lived in Alberta, and I in Ontario, and we hadn’t seen each other since 1997, he was still my brother and it still left a hole in my world. So I suspect that his passing had something to do with the apathy I felt at Christmas this year. As anyone who has lost a loved one knows, Christmas isn’t Christmas when you’re grieving, even if you don’t realize that you are grieving, which I think is what my problem was. He lived so far away, and we hadn’t seen each other in so long, that I don’t think I really knew how to grieve for him, or just how much I would miss him. The truth of the matter is, when you lose someone, you feel it in different ways as you move through the grieving process. Fortunately for me, I stumbled across a show today that I’ve never seen or even heard of before and me being me and believing that everything happens for a reason, I sat and watched it. It was a show called Long Island Medium and it’s about a medium named Theresa that receives messages from those who have passed away, and shares the message with their loved ones. Just watching the show made me feel better than I had felt all through the holidays so far. It made me believe whole heartedly that our loved ones know we miss them, they know we love them, and they want us to know that they are at peace. I believe in spirits, and I believe that those times when we think of them, or seem to “feel” them around us, that theyreally are there. The connection we had with them continues after death, and it’s stronger than ever. I’ve now lost two brothers and my father and today, through some strange twist of fate and a tv show I’ve never seen before, I felt a connection with all three of them. Maybe I didn’t miss Christmas afterall…

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